|Posted by Claire Oxenham on November 1, 2013 at 5:20 PM||comments (1)|
The last blog entry was a while ago I know!! I’ve been a busy bee, but I was writing about how wedding season is now over…. Well I’m sorry to say that I miss informed you!! I’ve had several “late” booking for wedding ceremonies and I now have them up until the week before Christmas! Never let it be said that my job is boring!
Just when I was about to start concentrating on my new office job I have weddings coming in not to mention the one for next year, so although it’s usually seasonal it now appears that couples want a winter sun ceremony.
So being a mummy and a house wife will have to wait as I’m now juggling weddings with a part time job!!
But as I say all the time I absolutely LOVE it and wouldn’t change it for the world!!
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on October 2, 2013 at 5:15 PM||comments (0)|
Well as I have said in the last blog, wedding season is over for me here in Tenerife, but my calendar is already filling up fast for next year I’m very pleased to say.
So whilst I’m putting the finishing touches on the couple of ceremonies I have for the end of the year, I would like to tell you a little bit about what I do when I’m not clacking away on my laptop.
I’m a mother of two fabulous children so I’m running around with them a lot!!! When they do give me 5 minutes peace I’m an avid reader, and of course social networking!!
I’m very proud to be married to a Canarian man who is the best husband and father, I’ve lived on this beautiful island for 11 years and will continue to live here as the hubby refuses to live back in the UK (he lived there for 25 years)
Whilst my life seems very hectic, there is nothing I like more then to sit at my laptop of an evening when the kids are in bed and to write a ceremony, it gives me a chance to be ME not mummy, I plug my earphones in listen to music (also a Lionel Ritchie fan and proud!!) and bring to life the information you have sent, to choose the right readings and words for you is a honorable thing, however let me know if there happens to be any Lionel lyrics in your vows!! There not supposed to be there!
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on September 11, 2013 at 4:55 PM||comments (0)|
You would think that being a celebrant on the beautiful island of Tenerife I would have ceremonies booked in all year round, but believe it or not for the “winter” seasons I only have a few… so I’m back blogging!!
I just want to say that yet again I have a fantastic season and have met some really nice couples and families, just putting faces to the email addresses I have, meeting the children I read about in the questionnaires, the friends and family all wanting to share in the special moment of the couple.
The surprise ceremonies planned completely by the husband shows ladies that romance is still alive and kicking!!!
The wedding ceremonies with everyone all dressed in their finery and me mentally taking note of the guest’s dresses that I liked and the shoes of course!!
There were a few times when I thought the heat would beat us and I would have a few fainting people…. But nope!! We all stood tall against the sun!
It has been another fantastic season in my world of a wedding celebrant
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on July 28, 2013 at 4:30 PM||comments (0)|
So behind on this now!! But I will continue to write for you every spare moment I have.
As you all know wedding season in Tenerife is in full swing now and will run to quite late on in the year as we have the weather for it, the perfectly sunny days and warm evenings makes a great back drop for the sunset ceremony or the early afternoon romantic ceremony.
More and more of my clients are turning to me to recommend locations for them and whilst I can as I have lived on the island for many years, the location of your wedding really depends on what you as a couple want. I try to find the location and be “your eyes” but I can only go so far as everything looks “flat” on an email and photos don’t create the right image in order for you to get excited about your wedding and really start to dream it.
Bearing in mind we have some of the best scenery the natural world can offer, some of the most perfectly placed restaurants and the best of golf courses.
But there are occasions where I run out of ideas so I turn to a wedding planner to help me, they have all of the right contact on the island and know all of the right people and sometime suggest locations that I haven’t even thought about!!
With that in mind I can help you visualize your ceremony, where it’s going to take place, who will stand where and more importantly where you will be standing when you take your all-important vows!
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on July 18, 2013 at 3:50 PM||comments (1)|
With wedding season on full swing on this fantastically hot island of Tenerife it’s hard not to feel it when performing my ceremonies.
As a wedding celebrant there is no formal dress code that we have to adhere to we can choose what to wear, I choose to wear a suit as I feel it looks smart and professional and exactly what my clients are looking for when looking for a celebrant here.
Now with it being summer most of my clients are having the sunset ceremonies and it is very beautiful, but occasionally I have clients that want an afternoon ceremony.
Very hot!! My jacket goes on at the very last minute and I swear I can feel my hair sweating!!
But… everyone tells me that despite being the friendly calming celebrant with the rehearsal, the second I step into that suit… I change yes still calming but there is an authority about me that not only gets the job done professionally but also efficiently.
So for me the power suit works...8)
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on July 8, 2013 at 5:15 PM||comments (0)|
This week I’m dipping into the symbolic ceremony again, as it’s such an open subject that really the sky is the limit!!
There are no rules to the symbolic ceremony you can even create your own, so any ideas that you have then don’t be shy!
But I’m going to look at the traditions in Burma, and the two bouquet ceremony.
Both the bride and groom hold flowers bouquets during the recitation of their vows.
The symbolism here is that the importance of the vows apply as strongly to the groom as it does the bride, when they have finished taking their vows both the bride and groom dip their hands in a shared bowl of water representing the water of life.
Another useful bit of information!
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on July 1, 2013 at 5:00 PM||comments (0)|
This week I want to talk about the choreography of the ceremony, being a celebrant in Tenerife I feel its important to run through every last detail of your ceremony.so during the rehearsal or pre ceremony meet we will talk about the choreography, gone are the days when a bride and groom stood with the backs to their guests!! it´s all about facing the people you love whilst listening to the celebrant, I like to call the choreographed ceremonies my three way tango, again we work together to make it a perfectly timed dance that is smooth, no tripping, no falling, no fainting and no muttering (on my part!!)
How ever buy the time I leave the meet, my couples have forgotten what I have said and look at me like rabbits caught in the head lights on the wedding day panicking as they cant remember what they are supposed to do.
All I say to them is…..relax!! ill tell you when to stand,sit,smile frown!!
Once all of this has been achieved, the walking back down the aisle as man and wife is the most easiest thing you have ever done, you wonder what all the stress has been about, more importantly you actually remember the ceremony, it’s not just a blur and you can carry on the rest of your lives looking back at the fact that you have the ceremony you have always dreamed of.
8).... remember relax!!!
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on June 27, 2013 at 5:25 PM||comments (0)|
This week I want to take a look at the symbolism in ceremonies again, we´ve looked at hand fasting, but this week I want to look at the Unity candle ceremony.
Although traditionally used in Christian wedding ceremonies, it’s now being used a lot in non-religious ceremonies.
There are three candles in total, to taper candles and one larger one.
The two small ones are lit this represents their single lives the bride and groom then light the larger one together, this then represents their now married lives together and the bride and groom then blow out the two smaller ones as a way of letting go of their single lives.
It can be performed with a shot speech or music, depending on what you want
This ceremony can easily be incorporated in to a ceremony and is an excellent visual and something different then the usual readings.
Providing there isn’t too much wind!!
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on June 20, 2013 at 5:40 PM||comments (0)|
Well hopefully I can answer that question,
Baby naming ceremonies are becoming more popular, it's an alternative to the traditional Christening or Baptism.
Naming ceremonies offer a lot more of a personal content then what you would expect from the traditional ceremonies, what you want in life for your baby, the hope, dreams and wishes, also they now tend to include the older siblings as well, as a formal welcome to this brand new addition, these hope dreams and wishes don’t have to be serious, I had a boy say to his younger brother that he hopes that you(the child being named) will play with him all the time, however his older sister went on to say that she wanted to paint his nails!!
It can also mark the first birthday of your child…. Look how far we have come let's celebrate!
So often now we are in too much of a hurry to do things… quick get the baby christened, with me as your baby naming celebrant I take the time with you to write the ceremony you want for your baby, the little touches that wouldn’t be in a church Baptism or Christening.
By taking the time with you WE create the perfect ceremony, more often than not parents pay tribute to their parents, with thanks and praise and also to publically note that they are grateful for the dedication its takes to being a parent.
Some families have a naming ceremony for all of their children at once, with this type of ceremony it doesn't matter what age the child is in fact if they are older they are more likely to remember it and join in more, this then turns into the best family day, with all the focus on the children.
The fact that you can come to Tenerife to have this, and all planned for you by professional months in advance, is an excellent alternative to anything that you would have dreamed of.
When you arrive on the island we will meet a day or two before the ceremony to run through and choreograph it, the ceremony isn’t done until you are 100% happy, even up until the last moment the ceremony isn’t finalized until you say.
|Posted by Claire Oxenham on June 10, 2013 at 5:10 PM||comments (0)|
This week I’m going to take a closer look at the commitment ceremony.
I have only ever performed one in Tenerife, but hopefully after this I’ll have a lot more in the pipeline.
The commitment ceremony used to be very popular between same sex couples when unfortunately they couldn’t have a legally binding ceremony.
Now however it’s just as popular with heterosexual couples.
Couples are now deciding that yes they have found the one, but for whatever reason DO NOT want to make it legally binding but still want to show their friends and family that they are committed to each other the same as a married couple.
The ceremony I performed was for a man and woman, they have been together for 2 years, and whilst they know they were right for each other, they felt they didn’t need the legally binding certificate.
The ceremony was exactly the same as a wedding ceremony in the fact that they made promises to each other, said vows to each other and exchanged rings.
For them that ceremony was their wedding ceremony, you could see the love in their eyes, the tears that fell as they took their vows; I just know that this was just as important to them as having the real thing.
So you see sometimes the big wedding that we all dream of isn’t necessary for some people, they just want to celebrate in a quiet manner that yes hey have found “the one” but don’t want to be legally bound to that person.
Some food for thought